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Signs of Problem Anger

Below is a listing of some of the common signs of problem anger. Learning to recognize them in yourself and others may be helpful in establishing a plan of anger management and developing healthy techniques to deal with you own and and the anger of other. See how many of the signs are common to you and common to those you encounter on a regular bases.

• Road Rage: Yelling, swerving, using a vehicle as a weapon

• Bullying: Treating other people like they are worthless

• Throwing/ Breaking things: Taking out your frustration (or revenge?) on yours or other people's property

• Sarcasm and Teasing: Showing people (in a humorous way?) how stupid or ridiculous you think they are

• Pouting: Feeling sorry for yourself, not cooperating just to get your way, creating guilt trips

• Slamming doors/ Stomping feet

• Criticizing others: To hell with being politically correct, power trip

• Saying, "You're right" but not meaning it: Seething, gets you out of a situation you are uncomfortable with/shuts them up fast

• Condescension: You feel superior to everyone else and tell them about it in a nasty or sarcastic way

• Interrupting: Your opinion counts the most; a form of bullying

• Lying: Sneaky revenge, making up/spreading rumors, making promises you never intend to keep

• Emotional abuse: Continually putting the same person down/ controlling/ threatening them repeatedly

• Domestic abuse: Continual physical and/or mental cruelty toward those you live with

• Yelling: Creating fear and/or submission through threatening volume

• Body tension: Squeezing fists, clenching jaws, flexing muscles, turning red, stress

• Withholding affection: You'll show them who's in control, lack of forgiveness, revenge

• Starting arguments/fights just "for fun": Getting a "high" or a "rush" at the expense of others

• Moral superiority: Believing you "have a right" to be outraged and are justified in your destructive actions

• Showing off: Being the "tough guy" to impress others

• Grumpiness/moodiness: No awareness or concern about how you are coming across to others

• Plotting revenge: Planning elaborate schemes to get back at your enemies

• No forgiveness or forgetting: Hanging onto the hurts of the past

• Masochism/Sadism: Addiction to hurting others and/or being hurt

• Martyrdom: Enjoying making others feel guilty by playing the victim, way to get attention/sympathy

• Low self-esteem: Hate yourself because you are stupid, worthless, ugly, lazy… a doormat

• Stubbornness: Refusing to acknowledge being wrong or let others have their way

• Glaring: You can't hide your disdain for others, keeps people at a distance

• Swearing/name-calling: Signal that the gloves have come off

• Threatening others with harm: Physical, mental, financial, property, loss of freedoms/choices

• Sighing/rolling eyes: Outer show of disrespect, contempt and/or frustration, listening is over

• And many more